Choosing the right person to be around

My seizures are now controlled after my brain surgery. No longer having seizures, one would think that I would find it easier when it came to a romantic relationships.

I have come across men who are not bothered by my past. But also men who have reacted negatively, even though I have been seizure free for a decade now.

Over time I learned that my past cannot be changed but my future is under my control. I found it very helpful when I started to embrace my condition and I saw this as an opportunity to educate others by telling people. This further helped me with my confidence and helping me choose the right person to be around as well.

Accepting one’s condition opens a door for a lot of people who might be hiding in the darkness. This makes it easier to seek support if needed.

Even though I am seizure free today, it’s a major thing for a guy to know in case my seizures started again. I see this as an opportunity to educate people because surprisingly people might not have heard about epilepsy.

At times I have come across men who would be impressed by my achievements. When I get an opportunity to explain the reason behind pursuing a career as a neuropsychologist, some people are shocked and recommend I not share it with the world. I have also come across men who would get very offended after talking about epilepsy and in a way would feel as if one were disloyal to them. They don’t tend to realise how hard it is for some of us to share about having epilepsy due to the possibility of rejection.

My experiences have showed me the right person that I would want to be with.